As we journey through life, especially as Black women, we often find ourselves pulled in so many directions — giving to others, supporting our families, and making sure everyone else is taken care of. But at this stage, I believe more than ever that it’s time to reclaim something that often gets left behind: the connection between spirituality and self-love.
Now, when I say self-love, I don’t mean the surface-level kind. I’m talking about a deep, soul-nurturing love — the kind that acknowledges your worth without hesitation. This isn’t about being selfish. It’s about recognizing that we, too, are worthy of the same love, attention, and care that we give so freely to others. After decades of putting everyone else first, it’s time to put ourselves on that list.
But here’s where it gets powerful: when self-love and spirituality meet, we start to see ourselves through a whole new lens. You see, spirituality reminds us that we are more than the roles we play — more than the titles of mother, sister, worker, caretaker. It’s that connection to something greater than ourselves, whether that’s God, or a deep sense of peace within. And when you blend that with self-love, you realize that your worth isn’t tied to what you do, but simply to who you are.
Spirituality has a way of grounding us. It pulls us back to the truth that we are part of something bigger, something beautiful. When you sit in stillness, when you pray, meditate, or even just breathe deeply, you reconnect with that inner voice — the one that says, “You are enough. You’ve always been enough.” That’s the essence of self-love.
For years, many of us have been conditioned to think that self-love is indulgent, something to feel guilty about. But spirituality teaches us that self-love is a divine act. It’s an acknowledgment of the light within us, the same light that has carried us through every challenge, every struggle, and every joy. When we love ourselves, we’re honoring that divine spark.
Think about it this way: we’ve spent a lifetime giving, pouring into others, and doing the work. But how often do we pour back into ourselves? How often do we take a moment to truly see ourselves, to give ourselves the love and compassion we deserve? That’s where spirituality comes in — it reminds us that taking care of ourselves isn’t just important, it’s sacred.
When you combine self-love with spirituality, everything shifts. Meditation becomes more than just a quiet moment — it becomes a way to connect with the deepest parts of yourself, to quiet the world and listen to what your soul needs. Affirmations aren’t just positive words; they become declarations of your truth. Saying “I am worthy of love” is no longer just a nice thought — it’s a recognition of your divine right.
At this stage in life, living in alignment is key. We’re no longer here to do things just because they’re expected of us. We’ve earned the right to make choices that nurture our soul. It’s about surrounding ourselves with people, environments, and experiences that feed our spirit. It’s about following our intuition — trusting that inner voice that knows what we need, even when the world tells us otherwise.
This doesn’t mean life will be free of challenges — we know better than that. But what it does mean is that we face those challenges with a sense of inner peace, grounded in the knowledge that we are enough just as we are.
And it’s not about perfection, either. There will still be moments of doubt, days where we question if we’re doing enough, or if we’re good enough. But spirituality grounds us. It reminds us that we are not alone, that there’s a bigger picture and a purpose to our journey, even in the messiest moments
Spirituality gives us that resilience, that reminder that we are not alone in this journey, and self-love gives us the courage to keep moving forward, to keep choosing ourselves.
So, where spirituality meets self-love is where we come home to ourselves. It’s where we start to live authentically, fully, and without apology. And isn’t that what we all deserve at this point? To love ourselves as deeply as we love others, and to embrace the beauty, wisdom, and strength that has always been inside us?
